Not all men are superficial.
I have actually known a few in their 50’s and 60’s who chose women their own age [within 5 years].
A few. Not many.
Most of them fell into the following categories:
1] Passive men lacking in ambition and drive who find emotional fulfillment in the company of powerful mother figures who do the driving for them.
2] Men with average to low libidos seeking travel companions.
3] Men who feign interest in such women because they look good on paper, but end up with women half their age because they look better in the flesh.
4] Normal, well adjusted men who would never consider dating anyone outside of their own age demographic because they live in the same psychological box they grew up in.
5] Budding serial killers looking for an older, submissive companion who will blend in with the neighborhood and stay out of the shed.
6] Men who have been married to the same women for decades and don’t see the changes as profoundly as they would had they met them on a Match date yesterday.
7] Men who genuinely love their wives too much to leave them, mistresses notwithstanding.
Understand that what gets people to where they are in life tends also to drive every other aspect of their life.
As I “testified” in my soon-to-be-released book, Urban Dystrophy, The Perverse Truths About Mid-Life in the Big City, there is nothing more powerful, no greater human commodity in the mind of a driven and successful older man, than youth and beauty.
Now you know the true crucible of older women.
Fortunately, due to the resiliency of gender adaptation, women are able to emotionally bond with others of their gender, enabling them to outlive their male counterparts by several years.
In this sense, we both win.
POSTSCRIPT
I remembered bookmarking this article from last month’s Huffington Post, and thought it would dovetail nicely with the narrative of this discussion. In it, Eva Mendes claims that the leading cause of divorce is “sweatpants.” If I may, I think that what Ms. Mendes was trying to say is that men
are visual first, human second.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/03/19/eva-mendes-sweatpants_n_6902570.html