Houston, we have a problem.
Infidelity is an enormously complicated issue – or an enormously simple one, depending on how you look at it.
Nonetheless, the “faithful” continue to surge.
“…there are almost definitely at least 187,000 faithful spouses who would still vehemently argue that Houston has about 187,000 too many adulterers.”
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So why did all this happen in the first place?
There’s always been infidelity. It’s not like it suddenly surfaced in the 21st century.
But why has it reached such epidemic proportions?
1] Is marriage, as an institution, dying?
2] Is feminism to blame?
3] Has sexual morality finally reached a point where its considered relative?
4] Have couples who married in their 20’s finally outgrown one another?
5] Has the Internet contributed to cultural addiction to higher highs?
In my view, it’s all of the above.
If you ask older men why they stray, their responses are usually the same: “I’m no longer attracted to my aging and obese spouse [in so many words].”
If men are programmed to perpetuate and spread their genes, then the go-to female is going to be young, and probably, beautiful.
It kinda sells itself.
But this is also the most infuriating to women as both genders grow old at the same rates, yet women still prefer men within 5 years of their age.
Needless to say, this places them at a distinct disadvantage, as they often find it almost impossible to find suitable mates.
They either choose much younger partners [who usually play the role of gold-digger], or spend the rest of their lives in the company of female friends, traveling the world and finding new avenues of interest.
There are exceptions, but once women pass a certain chronological point, it’s over.
So how exactly do couples prevent this from happening?
They have to keep pace with one another.
When middle-aged men become bored with their middle-aged wives, it’s most often because they have fallen out of shape, and with it, the youthful vitality that attracted the men to them in the first place.
Most men understand – and accept the fact – that both genders age, but in cases I’m most familiar with, the man cannot accept the fact that while he is in the gym every day, she’s on the couch.
The once collegiate volleyball player is now a frumpy matron, which breeds resentment.
“I’ve accomplished so many things in my life and this is what I’m left with???”
He wants the woman he married, albeit a more mature version, while she just wants a place to rest her head.
Clearly, one of them has given up.
Even in cases where neither party was particularly athletic, but one decides at middle age to get in the best shape of his or her life, the expectation is that the other will do the same, rather than wallow in self-pity and divorce papers.
In the end, couples have to grow together…and in the same general direction.
They owe it to one another if the perpetuity of their marriages means anything to them.
But people do change, and sometimes, you just have to accept the fact that the woman you married back at Georgetown is not the same woman today.
This is where couples either sit down and renegotiate the terms of their marriage, or move on.
The rest split apart while staying married for the sake of children, finances, and the passive love one acquires after so many years with the same person.
Marriage, like aging, is not for the faint of heart.
It’s a battle to the finish line both literally and figuratively.
The question you have to ask yourself is…Is it one worth fighting?
Note: “Fighting” does not denote misery.
We do battle every day of our lives, and the suicide rate is still lower than than the murder rate by a wide margin.