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The 60’s All Over Again
Flash-back to a time in history where members of the counterculture movement expressed their beliefs about property ownership by destroying others ’ property, building fences around said property, and living in communes with shared possessions.
Yea, that went well.
Today the same dynamic exists.
The human food chain marches on, fueled by those who proclaim solidarity with “duh people” only to steal it by using them as leverage and then consolidating personal power at their expense.
People fall for this crap all the time, which begs the question, why have they not been bred out of the human gene pool?
Back in the the day, the ones who survived all the street riots and general unrest went on to make fortunes, built mansions with walls and security cameras, and kick everyone out but hired help and mistresses.
So basically, nothing’s changed.
“Lyin’ Eyes” Reinterpreted
Don Henley was 28 when he and 27-year-old Glenn Frey wrote Lyin’Eyes.
The year was 1975.
The story goes that they were in their favorite LA restaurant/bar Dan Tana’s where they watched beautiful young women hitting on rich, older married men and decided to write about it.
From the vantage point of men in their 20’s, I can certainly understand their passionate disdain, as they felt entitled to the attention by virtue of youth alone.
Nonetheless, fast-forward to today’s urban world and I will comment on each verse from the perspective of an older man:
Henley/Frey
City girls just seem to find out early
How to open doors with just a smile
A rich old man
And she won’t have to worry
She’ll dress up all in lace and go in style
Comments:
City girls know exactly what they doing, which is why many of them are among the 1% without so much as a G.E.D., or discernible profession.
Late at night a big old house gets lonely
I guess every form of refuge has its price
And it breaks her heart to think her love is only
Given to a man with hands as cold as ice
Comments:
I have yet to meet a gold-digger who was unhappy in a 10 million dollar home. Not one. Furthermore, most don’t care what’s in a John’s heart, or even that he has one, as long as she gets to travel. Put another way, it’s a symbiotic relationship.
So she tells him she must go out for the evening
To comfort an old friend who’s feelin’ down
But he knows where she’s goin’ as she’s leavin’
She is headed for the cheatin’ side of town
Comments:
Most gold-diggers cheat. So what? As long as the John doesn’t find out what difference does it make? She’s still faithful to the arrangement.
You can’t hide your lyin’ eyes
And your smile is a thin disguise
I thought by now you’d realize
There ain’t no way to hide your lyin eyes
Comments:
Most men I know set specific parameters like anyone running a successful enterprise. Applicants sign employment contracts and live within the parameters.
On the other side of town a boy is waiting
With fiery eyes and dreams no one could steal
She drives on through the night anticipating
‘Cause he makes her feel the way she used to feel
Comments:
There will always be a boy somewhere waiting for pretty much anyone, anytime. It’s obviously not enough, so she parses.
She rushes to his arms; they fall together
She whispers that it’s only for awhile
She swears that soon she’ll be comin’ back forever
She pulls away and leaves him with a smile
Comments:
Unless he figures out how to make a bundle, he’ll only be a fleeting screw. Of course, most young guys who make a fortune when they’re young tend to go through women like water, so now who’s crying?
She gets up and pours herself a strong one,
And stares out at the stars up in the sky.
Another night, it’s gonna be a long one.
She draws the shade and hangs her head to cry.
Comments:
This is the funniest thing I have ever read. Her head is sitting in a $20,000 french armchair with a glass of champagne. Nice try, though.
She wonders how it ever got this crazy.
She thinks about a boy she knew in school.
Did she get tired or did she just get lazy?
She’s so far gone she feels just like a fool.
Comments:
Lazy? Are you insane? Women like this work their butt’s off to live like this. What? You think money just falls from trees?
My oh my, you sure know how to arrange things.
You set it up so well, so carefully.
Ain’t it funny how your new life didn’t change things?
You’re still the same old girl you used to be.
Comments:
Most insightful verse in the song. I’ve never known a gold-digger to change his or her stripes.
As young men, even they could see that people are what they do.
Steven Tyler and New Girlfriend, Aimee Ann Preston
Yes, there is an age difference. And no, I don’t care.
Tyler is 67. Preston, 28.
Ho hum.
But the media spins it for sensationalism: “Steven Tyler turned heads when he marched up the red carpet at the Oscar-viewing party thrown by Elton John’s Aids Foundation hand-in-hand with a younger mystery woman.”
Still ho hum.
Not to be deterred, the media adds even more flourish to this non-story: Aimee Ann Preston is a full decade younger than his actor daughter Liv!
Yea, and my girlfriend was born 10 years after I received my undergraduate degree at 23, and we’re still together 5 years on.
Ho hum, again.
Congratulations to Steven and Aimee.
I’m sure your relationship is everything but ho hum.
Boomers Vs Millennials: A Field Guide
http://parade.com/417123/scott_steinberg/field-guide-millennials-vs-baby-boomers/
This article has some field ready stats that I tend to agree with for the most part.
But what’s of particular interest to me, and that I think you might find interesting, is what follows: The differences in Habits and Characteristics.
Here’s a snapshot:
Did you know that 70% of millennials have never been married?
This makes complete sense given the fact that they inherited a tough job market, exacerbated by the fact that Baby Boomers never retire.
More than 60 percent of millennials say they’d rather earn $40,000 per year at a job they love than $100,000 at one they hate.
When I was looking for a job I also wanted something I enjoyed over something I hated, so this never made sense to me.
I think that most of this applies to the generation before mine, but for some reason got lost in translation…or time.
Polls seem to indicate that 1/2 of Gen Yers identify themselves as politically independent, while three in 10 are unaffiliated with any organized religion.
I get this. Media has of way of scrambling one’s brain cells, so how the hell are you supposed to know where you stand on anything?
Despite being the generation with the most schooling in U.S. history, millennials rank below their global peers in math, literacy and a key 21st-century skill: “problem-solving in technology-rich environments.”
The focus today is on liberal studies, which, in my generation, was reserved only for women pursuing “MRS” degrees and trust fund kids.
Another interesting finding is that only 15 percent of boomers admit to having a tattoo, compared to 40 percent of millennials and 30 percent of Gen Xers (born between 1965 and 1980).
Maybe the permanence of tattoos is projection on the part of a generation that can find solid footing pretty much anywhere.
Another sad fact of life for millennials is that nearly two-thirds of boomers ages 50 to 61 expect to delay retirement.
Among the most popular reasons cited for sticking with the daily grind: They want to.
Making matters worse [for millennials] is that boomers expect to live longer than any previous generation.
New research suggests that old age may now actually begin at 74.
That’s also bad news for employers who still offer a pension, with the average retiree now estimated to draw a pension for 24 years (50 percent longer than the prior generation).
Then there’s the surprising factoid that nearly as many boomers own smartphones as younger generations, and are far more likely to have home computers.
A whopping 85 percent are (LOL) into text messaging, sending an average of 80 messages a month.
Boomers are also five times likelier than other generations to own a digital tablet.
On a certain level, the situation is grim.
We like to work, we are healthier than any generation before us, and we stay on top of technology.
No wonder we date people half our age.
It’s not like millennials are getting anywhere with their peers.
Cash-Strapped Russian Sugar Daddies Running Back to Their Wives
It’s not just Russia.
Gold-Diggers state-side are on life support.
I have no further comments to make about this other than to just enjoy reading all about something you already know to be true…kind of like therapy.
lol.
Super Ripped, Super Shredded Men Over 50 – and Reality
Just so you know where I’m coming from, I’ve been active in the fitness lifestyle my entire life.
In fact, it could be argued that fitness interfered with my personal and professional life on more than one occasion, and over a period of many, many years.
Thus, to suggest in any way that I’m an outsider where this is concerned is naive.
I’ve been in this world, know the player-profiles, understand the mindset.
So let’s get real.
By the time you’re my age [60], things change. You can no longer pack on dense muscle while bleeding fat. It isn’t going to happen –– not naturally.
This means you’re going to need extra help, like testosterone supplementation coupled with 3 or 4 other pharmaceutical agents designed to “compliment” one another.
One helps build strength, another cuts inflammation…you get the point.
Going down this road is a conscious choice many men make when mortality is beating down the doors and there’s nothing left but an aging body.
The psychological profiles of these men are all similar: They are most often vain, arrogant, entitled and filled with rage.
Why?
Because there is nothing else in their lives to help mitigate the attrition.
They’re left with a disintegrating asset, rather than an expanding mind and soul; and asset on a collision course with destiny no matter how many syringes they jam into their bloated veins.
Do I feel the psychological pressure of mortality?
Absolutely. I feel it every day of my life, which is why I have a life beyond my physical body.
I know this is a shocking revelation to many, that there is anything at all worth exploring beyond the physical.
Surprise surprise.
My creative pursuits alone are a full time job, not to mention my relationship, which also includes two dogs and two cats as big as dogs.
This scenario is what most refer to as a balanced life, which does pull time away from workouts, perfect eating and regular blood work necessary to monitor elevated liver enzyme and PSA levels while on steroids.
In this sense, fitness can become ab addiction like alcoholism or drug addiction or sex addiction or gambling addiction or any of the other addictions that raid the dopamine mines and turn one’s life into a living nightmare of emptiness.
For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Newton’s Third law of Motion
But I’m not here to beat up on men who take care of themselves. Hardly.
I think men should take exemplary care of themselves, but to understand that we are all human, and to expect results beyong what the body will naturally deliver will require more than a healthy lifestyle.
Go back to the blood test. If it’s normal, the rest is up to you and the genetics you were born with.
But no matter what your genetics have to say about it, age is the Supreme Court of physicality.
You’re not getting out of life unscathed.
We all pay the price, which is why it is so critical for all of us as older men to have lives outside of the gym.
In the end, there is nothing more pathetic than an aging man with nothing to show for himself but low body fat and a dark tan.
Now you know why so many of us are punchlines.
Media Versus Reality
Ask Americans to name the Vice-President of the United States and most haven’t the vaguest idea.
Mention the name Kardashian, and anyone with a heartbeat can tell you what they had for breakfast.
This illustrates the quintessential disconnect between media [aka popular culture] and reality [everything else].
If everything in our world is driven by ratings, and everything in our world is media-driven, you can see where this is going.
I’ll leave this one here where it belongs.
Next.
What Boomers Want in Bed […according to Match.com]
http://www.match.com/magazine/article/8469/What-Baby-Boomers-Want-In-The-Bedroom/
According to Match what she wants…
1] Fabulous foreplay
Joy Parsons, 63, of Oklahoma City, OK, says more kissing and cuddling is at the top of her sexual wish list.
“Too many men I’ve dated recently just pop a Viagra and expect to get straight to it,” she confesses.
“But I for one need an appetizer before I jump to the main course.”
Comments: No question there’s an imbalance here, just as there is with men who take steroids versus those who don’t.
Pharmaceuticals throw off the natural order of things leaving many, in this case, older women in its wake.
2] To get their sexy back
“During lovemaking, I don’t want to worry about what my neck looks like,” confesses Sheila Clarkson, 59, of Las Vegas, NV. “Deep down, I still feel 19! I want my lover to make me feel as desirable and hot on the outside as I feel on the inside.”
Comments: This is a tough one because men are already staring down the barrel of mortality. My suggestion to older women is to find a man who’s comfortable with mortality.
3] More emotional intimacy
Francis Becker, 55, of Tacoma, WA, says that emotional bond is indeed what drives her post-50 sexual encounters. “I need to feel like I’m reaching a higher plane with someone,” she confides. “After a long and bitter divorce five years ago, I decided that before I slept with someone, he’d have to win my heart first. I don’t take sex lightly, and I don’t want my partner to, either. We need to connect on a spiritual level.”
Comments: When older men think of emotional intimacy in the context of sex, they’re usually running for the hills. Men see sex as a primal act, and any attempt to disrupt the flow sets up a clear and present danger to their masculinity. My suggestion is to substitute fantasy to avoid triggering the Madonna-Whore Complex.
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According to Match what he wants…
1] Passionate positive reinforcement
James Franklin, 62, of La Canada, CA, says the most important thing to him in the bedroom is knowing that he’s turning his partner on. “After 60, I don’t always perform like I used to,” he confesses. “So, during sex, it’s crucial for me to know that I’m still a great lover. It’s up to her to send me that message loud and clear.”
Comments: I have found that performing the way I did back in my 20’s is a blessed relief to women, because now I actually care about their satisfaction. As for positive reinforcement, I have found that the ones needing the reinforcement are women, given the Internet’s infringement upon reality.
2] Less pressure to be the best ever
When and if things don’t go as planned in the passion department, it’s important for women to not make a big deal about it. Instead, take this opportunity to discover ways to give each other pleasure that don’t include intercourse. Give back rubs. Caress each other’s bodies. Instead of getting frustrated or saying ‘I give up,’ explore new avenues of pleasure.
Comments: If you’re with someone who loves you for who you are and not what you bring to the table in stocks and real estate, you’re free to just be yourself. If, however, you’re in shit shape and falter repeatedly in the bedroom, it’s time to see a urologist.
3] More surprises in the sack
Men in midlife don’t want to get trapped under the boredom rock. They are looking for spontaneity and a bolder approach, both in the bedroom and out. Boredom simply isn’t conducive to passion.
Ray Brown, 71, of Jersey City, NJ, found when he started dating a new woman last year. “She was only interested in one position, and she told me there was to be no talking during lovemaking—ever,” he says. “After three or four encounters, I felt like falling asleep! I need someone who’s going to keep me guessing, not someone who somehow manages to make sex boring. Now more than ever, life’s just too short.”
Comments: After a single encounter, I can determine – without a shadow of doubt –whether or not we’re going to be sexually compatible. No one stays with a woman who puts them to sleep in the bedroom. Life’s already on a short fuse and no one’s giving up a single second more than they absolutely have to.
Closing remarks
If I happen to offend anyone with what I’m about to say, please understand that reality doesn’t give a crap what you or I think. It just is and WE either accept it or drop another Quaalude.
Most guys in my socioeconomic demographic who happen to be back in the singles market are not dating women their own age. Most women are 20 years younger…or more. This is considered age-appropriate, and therefore, normal.
Such women are not as concerned about how sex plays out because their bodies still work the way they used to. This is one reason men re-set the baselines.
Most of what this article refers to are men and women in the identical age demographic, which, as I have always said, is best left to people with either low libidos, low self-esteem, or physical and psychiatric disabilities.
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It bears noting that age differences also apply to affluent older women who date younger men for similar reasons.
In this sense, youth and money are synonymous.
Jerry Hall, 59 Engaged to Rupert Murdock, 84
Needless to say, this story is not really about Jerry Hall and Rupert Murdock.
It’s about age differences, and how money and power are balanced against relative youth and relative beauty on a very public stage.
What’s obvious is that Hall stands to inherit a massive sum when he dies, which, from an actuarial perspective, is just around the corner.
So she gives up a few years of her life in exchange for vast riches, while he gets to sleep with a younger woman with whom he shares common interests and lifestyles.
In this sense they both win.
But is this it?
Is it just a business decision?
Does Murdock think he’s being used? Probably not.
Does she love him in the way most people think of love?
I don’t know and neither does anyone else.
What I have found through personal experience that most older women – of which Hall is certainly a member – are far less interested in sex and romance than they are companionship.
There are exceptions, but not many.