Recreation, 2005
From my first book, Insideout, available on Amazon.
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How You “KNOW” You’re Middle-Age: A Primer in Dispelling Stereotypes
The article below cites 40 bullet points that claim to determines “middle-age” status:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/28/middle-age_n_3830194.html
Oh Dear God. Here we go…
According the article, the top 40 signs of middle age [55-plus] are as follows.
Notes:
Between each entry are my comments based on personal experience as a middle-age man living in a large metropolitan area.
You may find many of my comments surprising. Or not.
Here’s their list:
1) Losing touch with everyday technology such as tablets and TVs
Comments: This does not apply to me, but it does for others…many others. But most of them are in their 80’s and couldn’t care less.
2) Finding you have no idea what ‘young people’ are talking about
Comments: Again, this doesn’t apply to me because I’m around people of all generations. Disconnecting is a big problem, particularly for older men.
3) Feeling stiff
Comments: I don’t know what “feeling stiff” means in this context, but I have to assume it’s inflexibility, which is not a problem when you stretch, foam roll, and circuit train.
4) Needing an afternoon nap
Comments: On the days I don’t workout I don’t nap. On the days I do, I’m down for the count.
5) Groaning when you bend down
Comments: After dead-lifting hundreds of pounds, the attendant soreness makes me groan just getting out of bed.
6) Not remembering the name of any modern bands
Comments: I didn’t know there were any modern bands. Most of the bands I listen to still tour.
7) Talking a lot about your joints/ailments
Comments: Everyone who works out talks about ailments because we’re looking for work-a rounds, in most cases. As for going on and on about one bullshit ache and pain after the next, I leave it to the guys who threw up their hands at age 50.
8) Hating noisy pubs
Comments: I don’t go to pubs because I’m not much of a drinker. As for restaurants, I don’t like a lot of noise because I can’t hear the conversations, which is why I’m there in the first place.
9) Getting more hairy -– ears, eyebrows, nose, face etc.
Comments: Yes to all of the above, which is why I make sure that stuff doesn’t get out of control. You have to pay attention. Most older men don’t, hence the punchlines.
10) Thinking policemen/teachers/doctors look really young
Comments: I have no idea where this came from because my GP is 10 years older than I am and a triathlete. As for teachers and policemen, it never really crossed my mind.
11) Preferring a night in with a board game than a night on the town
Comments: A night in the pool followed by a glass of wine is more like it. When I was single, I’d take the night on the town in a heartbeat.
12) You don’t know any songs in the top ten
Comments: I don’t know any songs in the top ten by name, but I do recognize a Katy Perry song that makes my skin crawl.
13) Choosing clothes and shoes for comfort rather than style
Comments: I choose shoes with soft soles because they are more comfortable. All of my Prada’s have soft soles.
14) Taking a flask of tea on a day out
Comments: My trainer who’s 35 carries tea around with him, as do a lot of young guys in the gym who want a peak workout. Caffeine is a key ingredient in many sports drinks. I just do the morning coffee and nap when necessary.
15) Obsessive gardening or bird feeding
Comments: I don’t garden, but like trees if that helps.
16) Thinking there is nothing wrong with wearing an anorak
Comments: I didn’t know what an anorak was until I Googled it. But no, I don’t wear one and have no idea why anyone else would, either.
17) Forgetting people’s names
Comments: This has been a problem since high-school, but I’m working on it.
18) Booking on to a cruise
Comments: I hate the idea of being stuck on a boat in the middle of the ocean with a bunch of people I don’t know, so no.
19) Misplacing your glasses/bag/car keys etc.
Comments: I’m getting better at this. I started reading this book on mindfulness, which reminded me to try and focus on one thing at a time, rather than 6000.
20) Complaining about the rubbish on television these days
Comments: My name is Jay Rusovich and I am a TV show addict.
21) Gasping for a cup of tea
Comments: I don’t even know what this means.
22) Getting bed socks for Christmas and being very grateful
Comments: I don’t know the meaning of “bed socks.” But I don’t wear socks in bed because I have blankets.
23) Taking a keen interest in The Antiques Road Show
Comments: I’m into mid-century modern and contemporary.
24) When you start complaining about more things
Comments: When I was in high-school I complained about the lack of freedom to come and go as I pleased. Now I complain about long waits for room service. Tie.
25) Listening to the Archers
Comments: I don’t know what – or who – the Archers are, and refuse to Google it/them.
26) You move from radio one to radio two
Comments: I don’t understand this one at all.
27) Joining the National Trust
Comments: The what?
28) Being told off for politically incorrect opinions
Comments: All the time. Always have.
29) Flogging the family car for something sportier
Comments: I’m childless and living with a woman half my age. There is no “family car.”
30) When you can’t lose six pounds in two days anymore
Comments: I lost 5 pounds of water on a two-hour bike ride yesterday.
31) You get shocked by how racy music videos are
Comments: I assume this is a veiled reference to Miley Cyrus performances, which are tepid compared to the shit I’ve seen, and personally experienced.
32) Taking a keen interest in the garden
Comments: Knock if off with the garden shit, already.
33) Buying travel sweets for the car
Comments: We carry stuff most people associate with surviving a global apocalypse. “Sweets” are not on that list.
34) Considering going on a ‘no children’ cruise for a holiday
Comments: Why would any adult want to hang out around a bunch of children?
35) When you know your alcohol limit
Comments: I have always known my alcohol limit. My body tells me the same way it did back in college.
36) Obsessively recycling/ knowing the collection dates
Comments: I just watch what the neighbors do. Most of them are actual adults.
37) Always carrying a handy pack of tissues
Comments: WTF?
38) Falling asleep after one glass of wine
Comments: Most people who workout a lot fall asleep after a glass of water.
39) Spending more money on face creams/anti-aging products
Comments: Guilty as charged. But my girlfriend outspends me tenfold.
40) Preferring a Sunday walk to a lie in
Comments: I’ll take the later, thank you. I need a day off once a week.
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NEED MORE MIDLIFE BASHING? THE HP IS HERE TO HELP, AGAIN…
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/05/22/signs-youre-not-as-young-as-you-used-to-be_n_7293432.html
1. You walk into the kitchen to get something but you forget what it was when you get there.
Comments: I remember walking into my college library as a senior and forgetting what book I was looking for – during finals.
2. Every horizontal surface in your house has a pair of reading glasses on it.
Comments: Both sunglasses and reading glasses, actually.
3. You are regularly asked why you still have a telephone land line.
Comments: The land line is strictly a back-up system. I still don’t know the number. But my 84-year-old mother uses her land line regularly.
4. You carry cash and use it to pay for things.
Comments: If I have a few 5’s in my pocket it’s for valets, not luncheon meat.
5. You still figure out the tip in your head instead of using your phone calculator or an app.
Comments: Since the bill for dinner is usually $150, I tip $30. The day I use an App to calculate 20% to the penny, shoot me.
6. You check the menu online before you eat in a restaurant because you know you won’t be able to see it once you are there.
Comments: I never look at a menu. That’s what waiters are for.
7. You frequently choose restaurants based on their parking situation.
Comments: When you live in a big city, you need valets in order to find a parking space. Why would I walk two blocks to a restaurant?
8. When you park at the mall, you take a photo of where you left your car.
Comments: I have never heard of anyone doing this, but I assume the writer does.
9. You get invited to parties that start later than you like to go to bed.
Comments: We usually go to bed around midnight, so if the party starts at midnight, we opt out.
10. More than once you’ve grabbed the Ben-Gay thinking it was the toothpaste tube.
Comments: I started wearing readers at 39, and since that time, I can’t count the number of things I’ve squirted in the wrong places.
11. Loud music bothers you unless you’re the one playing it.
Comments: I get upset if music isn’t loud enough to hear, since I lost a lot of my hearing listening to loud music.
12. You rushed out and bought the iPhone6 Plus and love it — even if your kids mock you.
Comments: I bought the Iphone 6 because the ‘Plus” is the size of my Ipad.
13. You have different glasses for reading, for driving, for the computer and for going to the movies.
Comments: Just readers. Computers apparently don’t affect long distance vision.
14. You no longer rush to the dermatologist over every new sun spot.
Comments: I do, in fact, rush to the dermatologist every time I see a new sun spot. Some things never change.
15. You think people driving the speed limit are driving too fast.
Comments: I pretty much always think people are driving too slow.
16. You see items from your youth on “Antiques Roadshow” — going for top dollar.
Comments: Yea, I agree with this one.
17. You prefer a coffee maker with just an on/off switch.
Comments: I like having options, which is why I use the timer. But a simple “on-off” is good, too.
18. You understand that the only toppings on a pizza should be cheese and pepperoni.
Comments: The only ingredients I don’t use are cheese and pepperoni.
19. You can’t pronounce quinoa.
Comments: KEENWAH. Happy?
20. Kale will always be just a salad bar decoration to you.
Comments: Kale gets stuck in my teeth, which is why it’s often just decoration.
21. Shaving your legs is something you do only when going to the beach or a pool party.
Comments: No, I shave them all the time. So does my girlfriend.
22. You eyebrows turn white, if you have any eyebrows left.
Comments: Yup, whitish, but full.
23. Buying a new appliance makes you happy.
Comments: Who doesn’t love new appliances?
24. You fall asleep whenever you try to watch TV.
Comments: I have never fallen asleep watching television, but my girlfriend does it all the time, and she’s half my age.
25. You pick movies based on the theaters with fully reclining seats.
Comments: I don’t like sitting in dark rooms filled with complete strangers.
26. You begin to “get” cruises.
Comments: I’ve never been on a cruise and never intend to.
27. You wear your Fitbit to the mall and immediately check how far you’ve just walked.
Comments: My Fitbit is still sitting on my desk after giving me wrist rash.
28. You don’t have operations anymore; you have “procedures.”
Comments: The difference between an operation and a procedure is anesthesia. If I have to go under, I’m having an operation.
29. You wish your doctor took the laxatives that he gives you as pre-colonoscopy prep.
Comments: I don’t care what my doctor takes as long as he’s not tripping during the procedure.
30. The first thing you look for in an obituary is the person’s age and what killed them.
Comments: I don’t read obituaries unless I’m doing research.
31. You remember when you used to think having hemorrhoids was a big deal.
Comments: I’ve never had hemorrhoids.
32. Your idea of a great date night involves take-out food and Netflix.
Comments: I’m on board with this one.
33. When you come upon old photos of yourself, you think “I was so thin then.” All the time.
Comments: I was very thin back then, and lucky not to be locked up.
34. You are a big fan of yellow sticky notes.
Comments: I use pink ones.
35. You cut off the wine early enough to take the sleeping aid.
Comments: When I take a sleep aid, it’s with frozen fruit, a slice of low fat cheese and some pita chips.
36. You wonder when exactly it was that liberal you became a fiscal conservative.
Comments: I’ve always considered myself a fiscal conservative, even when I didn’t have a dime.
37. Public transportation makes you uneasy.
Comments: What’s public transportation?
38. You understand why people pay to upgrade their seat on planes.
Comments: So does Justin Bieber.
39. Running shoes are your go-to footwear — and not for running.
Comments: I would generally agree with this one.
40. You buy drugstore hair coloring by the case when it’s on sale.
Comments: The only thing I get by the case is pet food.
41. You’ve had conversations with friends about the best source of bran.
Comments: I have never had a conversation about bran.
42. You know first-hand that generics aren’t as good as the real deal.
Comments: If the generics work, I buy them. If not, I buy the name brands.
43. You pour egg whites into your coffee thinking it was fat-free creamer.
Comments: Seriously?
44. Your kids are all taller than you.
Comments: None of the animals in this house are taller than me.
45. You do some mental math before adopting a new puppy or kitten.
Comments: No I just grab whatever’s dragging garbage across the street.
46. You say things like, “My next house won’t have so many stairs.”
Comments: I said this 20 years ago and still have a lot of stairs.
47. You can’t remember the last time you fell asleep and stayed asleep all night.
Comments: I usually sleep through the night. If not, I don’t remember waking.
48. You are finally remembering which is Medicare and which is Medicaid.
Comments: I still have to Google it.
49. Hotels no longer ask to actually see your AARP card before they give you a discounted rate.
Comments: Hotels never offer me a discount of any kind. In fact, most of them pad the bill.
50. You swear your feet are growing wider — because they are.
Comments: If my feet are wider it’s because I have more lean muscle mass, which would make anyone’s feet wider. Large animals have big feet, too.
SUMMARY
Folks, I could go on and on with this crap until the sun dies.
People love stereotyping Baby Boomers; putting millions of us into neat little boxes that can be stacked on shelves and labelled.
But what happens when you don’t fit the stereotypes?
You put a smile on your face and middle finger in the air.
If Madonna Were an Older Man: When Double-Standards Apply
Would she be held to the same standards? If not, why?
The article uses several celebrity examples of older men who seem to get away with certain behavior that Madonna would be skewered for.
The narrative here is that older women, in general, are held to completely different standards to that of older men.
Sometimes this is true, but not always, as I’ll explain.
First, an example of what you’ll read in the “bullet-pointed” article:
1: Harrison Ford, Private Plane Pilot. On March 5, the 72-year-old actor crashed his World War II-era plane. The story made headlines around the world, all honoring how well he managed to handle the accident and hoping for his speedy recovery.
Madonna’s Headline
No longer High, Flying or Adored, Madonna Crashes on the Runway and the Charts.
My Take: Madonna, in particular, set herself up for all of this.
Either she cannot see, or chooses to ignore, the reality that “25 and 55” are two different things.
While rock stars like Mick Jagger still rockin’ n’ rollin’, we’re all in on the fantasy.
Jagger has never pretended to deny – or in any way change public perception of – his age.
In the case of Madonna, it’s the other way around.
Her album covers are case studies in Photoshop overindulgence; her competitiveness with pop singers half her age the punch lines of every late night missive; and her incessant allusions to bedding young men is as cringe-worthy as biting a dry Popsicle stick.
With Madonna, it’s not about men and women being held to different standards, it’s about Madonna not coming to terms with reality as the rest of the world knows it.
The final 11 bullet points cite:
2] Paul Newman: Car Racing at 70.
Madonna’s Headline
Bitch on Wheels: Desperate Madonna Still Thinks She’s in the Race
My Take: Again, this is not about age as much as it is about Madonna. Nobody ever beats up on older female triathletes. They applaud.
3] Iggy Pop, Shirtless at 67.
Madonna’s Headline
Icky Pop: GrandMadonna’s Topless Photo Looks Like a Map of the Old Stars Homes
My Take: Iggy Pop looks like a friggin’ monster as he did 30 years ago. No one’s ever disputed that. The fact that he’s preternaturally shredded only makes him a greater curiosity, not sex symbol.
4] Tom Cruise, Fencing at age 52.
Madonna’s Headline
Right of Light Saber: Madonna Learns How to, Literally, Stab Her Friends in the Back
My Take: They’re probably right about this one.
5] Russell Crowe, Knitting at age 50.
Madonna’s Headline
Unapologetic Stitch: Will Madonna Knit Baby Booties for Her Next Boyfriend?
My Take: This one reaches for a story it never quite lands.
6: Brad Pitt, Motorcycle Riding at age 51.
Madonna’s Headline
Motorcycle Mama’s Message to Her Children: Biking Is Fine!
My Take: If Madonna wants to ride motorcycles, nobody cares as long as she isn’t riding it in a tu-tu.
7: Sean Penn, Surfing at age 54
Madonna’s Headline
Drowned World: Madonna Desperately Tries to Stay Afloat
My Take: Not to hammer a point to oblivion, but if Madonna wants to resurrect herself, an acoustic guitar and her voice on stage would be enough to fill arenas anywhere.
8: Johnny Depp, Owning and Island at age 51.
Madonna’s Headline
From British to Bahamian, Madonna’s Un-American Ambitions
My Take: See #5 Russell Crowe.
9: Sting, Tantric Sex at age 63.
Madonna’s Headline
Chanteuse on the Loose: Madonna’s Sexual Stretch Marks
My Take: It is true that Madonna would be the laughing stock of the world if she were to publicize something like this in light of her recent missteps.
10: George Clooney, Sports at age 53.
Madonna’s Headline
No Longer in a League of Her Own, Madonna Strikes Out on the Playing Field, Dribbles in Public, and Chases After Tight Ends
My Take: If Madonna competed successfully in a triathlon, she would set an example for women her age. Instead, she expects people to just imagine her doing it, along with everything else.
11: Denzel Washington, Boxing at age 60
Madonna’s Headline
Former Musical Heavyweight Madonna Now Hits Below the Belt
My Take: If Madonna wanted to box, no one would care one iota.
12: Kevin Costner, Horseback Riding at age 60.
Madonna’s Headline
Madonna owns… wait, she fell off her horse in 2005, leaving her with a broken hand, busted collarbone and three cracked ribs. One very popular New York Newspaper wrote it…”Madonna Falls Off Her High Horse.”
My Take: I remember this story well, and again, Madonna is her own worst enemy.
When Keith Richards fell out of a coconut tree or four-wheeler or whatever the hell happened to him in Hawaii, he got flowers and high-fives, not a tsunami of negative press because he’s cool being who the hell he is!
Bottom line:
The article is not about gender stereotypes.
It’s about Madonna…as usual.
When Did Bad Service Go Airborne?
Every heard the term “Coffee shop attitude?”
If not, I’m sure you know all about bad service, whether it’s a stoner serving coffee, or say, a plumber with a house note and problems with his wife that you need to hear all about.
These days, if I want great service I have to pay the highest price imaginable for it.
If I’m traveling, I have to choose – for example – Ritz Carlton, a company that trains its employees in the fine art of great customer service.
Of course, I’m looking at $500.00/night on up for said service, but it’s well worth it given the alternative.
If I want a great overall dining experience with air-conditioning and hand towels, I have to pick the most expensive place in a given city or I put up with cultural flu.
How exactly does this ‘attitude’ play out?
Simple:
WAITER
“You [the customer] make me feel like giving a shit. If you’re successful I’ll pass you a plate without dropping it in your lap.”
In the case of a plumber [and I use ‘plumbing’ randomly], you have to offer restroom facilities, cold drinks and sometimes gas money to Home Depot when they don’t have the part they need on their trucks.
When did this all this crap start? The entitlement?
I remember when plumbers, waiter, electricians, gardeners – suppliers of every kind – were appreciative and polite to their customers.
It’s how they got what was once known as repeat business.
As kids we were taught that the nicer you were to your customers, the more money you made.
It seemed pretty simple at the time.
But today, people resent serving anyone who doesn’t kiss their butts – as if we [the people paying for their services] owe them special treatment for assisting us in exchange for our money.
Obviously, people are feeling more and more invisible in a world where respect is a birthright, not something earned.
Maybe it’s the fact that I’m older, more successful, and, generally speaking, more experienced that I expect more.
But in the end it doesn’t matter what the rationale is.
What does matter is where they’ll be in ten years when cleaning dishes is no longer cool.
Note: This discussion is slightly off topic, but I couldn’t help myself after some moron at an organic hamburger joint was too stoned to understand the meaning of “I’d like a hamburger with lettuce wrap and sweet potato fries” all in the same sentence.
By the way, I want to smack that douche in the photograph above, and I know you do, too.
New Amazon Review of Urban Dystrophy, Unexpurgated
As every writer knows, the reviewing process can be a grueling exercise in humility. Some people like what you have to say, others not so much. A lot of it depends on a person’s mood that day, or projection stemming from conflict, or just plain jealousy that you published a book and they didn’t. I know. it’s pathetic. But it happens all the time.
With this as a backdrop, I thought that i would share a recent review that meant a lot to me. The reader obviously understood the message and offered a thoughtful response, which is always appreciated.
Here it is in its entirety:
“Who wrote this book? Is he kidding? Is he serious? Is he the angriest man in the urban mid-life dating world? Or is he part of a silent majority, the rest of whom lack either the courage or literary skill (or both) to expose the innermost secrets of many middle-aged men in the world of high income big city dating?
Treat it as parody, or treat it as reality, or some of both – either way, it is a great read!
A book for men who want to confirm what they already suspect or know.
A book for women who want to understand what many men are thinking – either the men they want to avoid, the men they want to attract, or the men they are already seeing.
Meet the new, urban, single, wealthy, successful middle-aged man. He’s post-angry. He’s entitled. He’s demanding. And that is only half the story. Meet the new urban single middle-aged woman. She’s unrealistic. Utterly oblivious. Living in a dream world of self-created fantasy.
Meet Urban Dystrophy.
Where men are middle-aged at 56.
But women are middle-aged at 36.
In the world of the big city, middle aged dating is a battlefield filled with dysfunction, borderline personality disorder, hidden agenda, and narcissism. For people who find themselves single in mid life (bad), or who never married (worse), finding a mate who isn’t carrying more baggage than a UPS truck or who is who they say they are or who considers honest self representation a virtue is more unlikely than winning a multi-state lottery.
Middle age may be the new 30, but dating in middle age is the new torture. Built on mass media created thrones of high expectation, the middle aged mans dating experience is all about his desire to have the kinds of girls that he either did have or couldn’t have when he was 25. But now that he is affluent and 50, he deserves – is entitled to – those girls. Why would they want a 25-year-old guy, when he has everything to offer them? After all, we KNOW that women fall in love with their ears, not their eyes, don’t we?
For many women, this will be a primer on the kind of man to avoid. Unfortunately, the book points out that most of the men they believe they want fall right into this category.
For many men in the middle-aged dating scene, this will be a full-on reinforcement and vindication of their dating experiences and choices.
Anthropological intrigue.
In the land of Urban Dystrophy, young women in their late 20’s who are offended when men in their mid-fifties or older hit on them are offended not because they think the man is pathetic, but because the man is insulting them – how DARE he think they cannot attract an uber successful man in his early 30’s? The middle-aged man becomes the ultimate insult. For the middle-aged man who is rejected by the woman in her late 20’s or early 30’s, she’s just an idiot. No offense taken. He’ll find another.
Who is going to wait on the sidelines until she either dates down, waaaay down, the economic ladder (as men have done forever), or dates up, waaaay up, the age range (as men have done forever – after all, the 69 year old man happy to be dating her will be dating waaaay down the age range – middle aged women.
You may think that this is written from the perspective of a person who has money and financial success at the core of his soul. And maybe you think that if you have, for example, God there instead, you will have a different outcome. And you will. You won’t live in the middle of the big city, divorced or never married, hanging out in health clubs or wine bars or charity events to find love. You will be in church. That said, in the world of Urban Dystrophy, they are both a kind of self-delusion. The delusion being, that we are worthy just as we are. Self-love is delusional love, without God, or Money, or Beauty. Because, in the big city, all the self love in the world won’t get you laid – not without the other stuff, anyway.” M.F., Las Vegas, NV.
Exclusive Health Clubs and the Darwinian Ecosystem
Darwin should have spent more time studying human behavior. It would have made the animal kingdom appear more evolved.
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Now, what I’m about to say is done so out of the kindness of my heart, notwithstanding the fact that human nature is suspect under most circumstances.
Some of us have enough soul to communicate without ulterior motive, unless you consider lambasting a motive.
Let’s just say that people “acquire” what they can as long as they can get away with it.
“I’m an 18-year-old college coed with a beautiful face and flawless physique. I know that my popularity is tied to these features. And while I may struggle with the fact that physical beauty opens doors before anyone knows my first name, I tend to get over it. For a while, anyway. As I enter my mid-20’s, I notice changes, feel the pressure of expectations that force my hand to make decisions that challenge my ability to simply exist. Now I must do. But I’m addicted to the attention without having to lift a finger, and people now expect me to do something more than present well. Oh shit. Okay, let’s see. I have a degree in Business Administration, so I guess I better start sending out job applications. Seriously? I’m sending out job applications? For what? So I can prove to the world that there is more to me than a pretty face and a perfect ass? Well guess what? It’s changing! I’m changing. My face is not as young as it was as a teenager, and now I have to workout all the friggin’ time to maintain my object status, which I don’t want to forsake for 60 hour workweeks. Oh dear god, what’s happening to me? I need to get married before I miss this opportunity! But I can’t just do that because then I’m just like every other pretty girl who did nothing with her life, but become someone’s wife and a mother to our children. Of course, the neighborhoods and vacations are nice. But I’m not ready to throw in the towel just yet. So I work and date and go to the gym to try to keep it all propped up until I start experiencing radical weight loss, depression and social withdrawal. So I go to therapy, where I discover that women are, in fact, objects, and that I have this one life, this one shot at making it before the flame is gone forever. So I capitulate, marrying a wealthy guy who knows my family. We buy a beautiful hone in a beautiful neighborhood and have two beautiful children. Now I’m 35, divorced with two kids and back on the dating market. I should have stuck with the 60 hour work week…”
More “enlightened” young women at my health club [i.e., less conflicted] embrace their object status and exploit it without mercy.
They come to the gym fully loaded, ready for adventure and excitement under the pretense of training.
Oh, the train. They absolutely train, primarily their butt muscles, which carry enough firepower to land a nest-egg the size of a Volkswagen.
They all know the score. All of us do, both men and women.
It’s why no one falls on the floor when they stretch and grind, particularly women who [on some level] respect their tenacity and focus.
One day, those same women will invite them into their lavish homes, and perhaps, introduce them to men far wealthier than their current husbands.
But as we all know, this is normal, well-adjusted behavior in a world where everything is for sale to the highest bidder.
Young men play a similar game. While they are often heard complaining about all the older men hoarding women their age, they certainly understand the power of money, which cuts through everything like a hot butter knife.
“I’m a 25-year-old guy with a great body and wealthy dad. One day I will inherit his business and the world will be mine. Actually, it already is mine, given the number of women I run through on a weekly basis. I know they appreciate good looks, and it’s always nice to find someone their own age. But what they really want is money. They call it security, but I know what they mean. They don’t want no matter what they tell me because sacrificing looks for business opportunity just isn’t worth jeopardizing the nice house and the country club membership. As for me, I’m just along for the ride. I date them and then forget their names. Marriage, or whatever, isn’t in the cards for me until I’m at least 40, at which point I’ll find the hottest 22-year-old on the planet.”
In both instances, young men and women of this world – of my world – are pragmatic on every level. They know how life works and they leverage everything they have to achieve success as they see it.
This is not as much about love as is about survival of the fittest.
Then they can afford to love all they want.
Lifting Heavy Weight: The Older Man’s Fountain of Youth
A FEW BENEFITS:
1] Boosts Metabolism
2] Burns Fat
3] Super-Charges Hormones
4] Increases Mass
5] Improves Posture
I dunno. It kinda sells itself. And yet I still hear grumblings from older men about the dangers of heavy weight-lifting.
“You’re going to throw out your back! You’ll have an aneurism any minute now! Those hips can only take so much!”
The one thing that stands out for me about older, deconditioned men is there self-loathing.
Just Released! Urban Dystrophy: Now Formatted Across All Platforms!
Now available on Amazon!
Ballsy, hardcore and bad ass real as it gets.
Print version to follow.
Knock yourselves out, and please review it should you feel so inclined!
Urban Dystrophy [Digital Version] Available on Amazon this week!
LAUNCH DATE FOR DIGITAL VERSION ANNOUNCED ON MAY, 2015!
PRINT VERSION TO FOLLOW.
From Urban Dystrophy:
“You get back what others think you’re worth, not what you think you’re worth. And unless you can afford not to care, you better care. With practice, you’ll be able to determine your own relative value so you’re not disappointed by things you thought you deserved, but didn’t for reasons you may resent, but better get used to.”
“Most middle-aged men struggling to balance acquisition of wealth with fading relevance feel like characters in an apocalypse series with recurring story arcs.”
“I compete with popular culture every day, on every level, including in my love life where it’s particularly competitive.”
“I once knew a forty-two-year-old pharmaceutical rep that kept a list of mandatory line items prospective “boyfriends” had to meet. It sat on her iPad for easy reference. If I remember correctly, the last count was 22,328.”
“Eventually we all reach a point in life where we can no longer hit on young women without also being hit on by a bouncer.”
“In the old days, men had wives and mistresses. This was considered normal. It was understood that emotional intimacy in men was a sign of weakness, and therefore, if women wanted their men to remain strong and faithful to their marriages, mistresses were necessary.”
“At middle age, the situation becomes ten times worse. Although women are decades older than they were back in college, men still measure them against their 1980 yearbook picture, which is why most of the women they date were born about that time. This same pathology manifests in the perception that men and women age at different rates, even if they technically don’t.”
“Women say blessings are counted by the number of people who give you unconditional love. But, others contend that you still die alone, and that bouncing nickels off a flawless ass is worth the blind faith in miracles.”
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Madonna and Her Battle for Relevance in the Middle Years
Madonna Louise Ciccone [aka Madonna] was born in Bay City, Michigan on August 16, 1958, which makes her 56 years of age. Her career started in 1979 and since that time she has amassed a fortune exceeding $800 million dollars doing exactly what she wanted to do with her life, which is pretty much everything a human being could possibly hope to do in one lifetime, or 100 for that matter.
The tailwind from her career would be enough to propel most clinical narcissists into old age without the help of a therapist, but not Madonna. No. She demands the world see her the way that it did 30 years ago, in spite if the fact that it is 30 years later.
In light of this, it’s no surprise that she levels charges of “ageism” as if that’s going to somehow guilt-trip her fans into some sort of collective hallucination.
The poor woman just fell off the stage during a comeback performance, for god’s sake. That’s about as bad as it gets for a cultural icon that uses fame the way human beings use blood.
Youth is gone, Louise. I’m sorry. I feel it, too. So does everyone else our age. But we don’t do ourselves any favors trying to be something we’re not. If you want to believe the applause you receive from aging women and drag queens constitutes transcendence, I’m sorry.
I remember seeing Madonna at NYC nightclubs back in the late 70’s. She was unknown, striking, wildly creative, and always blitzing for attention. She leveraged the currency of youth to achieve her objectives when she had it in spades. Some people are fortunate that way. Personal conviction is something most of us have to earn over time.
Nonetheless, after many decades of Madonna being Madonna, her relevance is vanishing. And while in all likelihood she can still fill arenas, the reason has everything to do with nostalgia and nothing whatsoever to do with another successful reinvention.
If she wants to act, let her act. Meryl Streep still does it. If she wants to make a nightclub appearance here and there, maybe belt out an old jazz standard, go for it. Woody Allen has a regular gig at Café Carlyle in New York. It’s all good.
With these thoughts in mind, I regret to say that I can no longer rock my crimson Spandex in the gym, in spite of the fact that I haven’t aged a day since 1979.