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The Huffington Post article lists ten reasons why women should date older men.
I’ll add to the narrative:
1] Maturity
2] Gray hair
3] Good in Bed
4] Loves kids, but doesn’t want to burden you with his own.
5] Makes – and sticks to – date plans.
6] Physically fit.
7] Financially stable.
8] Knows he’s going to0 pay on the first date.
9] Well-traveled.
10] Doesn’t want you to mother him.
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Okay, so for the past 4 and a half years I have lived with a woman half my age.
I’m not bragging, believe me.
Nothing is a panacea no matter what it looks like from the outside.
For one thing, it gets annoying when people refer to her as my daughter.
Thank God the ID thing finally stopped.
This is all part of the drill.
My ex was age-appropriate and often mistaken for a my mother, so we’re even.
With this in mind, why would a woman so young be interested in a man so much older?
While many will pontificate on her ulterior motives, I can assure you that she can find wealthier men all over Houston.
With this said, it boils down to the following 5 items:
1] Common interests.
We met through the art world, which means we met under circumstances of common interest, rather than a bar where anything and everything can – and usually does – happen under circumstances best left to local law enforcement.
We are also avid fitness and music enthusiasts.
When we first met I noticed that her classic rock collection rivaled mine – and mine is serious by most standards, believe me.
2] Sex.
To be perfectly honest with you [and I hate admitting this, by the way], there was a time in my life when I could not have cared less whether the woman in bed with me reached climax.
It was all about me, my needs, my conquest.
Today, it’s the opposite. It’s about her pleasure first, which I’ve found to be more fulfilling.
I don’t have anything to prove to myself beyond what I already know.
Being experienced – and appreciative –is a big deal in the bedroom.
3] Financial stability.
I know most people want to automatically make this #1, but it isn’t.
Contrary to popular belief, young woman don’t like blowing the best years of their lives on someone they’re not attracted to.
But it is also true most men in their 20’s and 30’s are still living at home, and a night on the town usually involves kegs, sliders and sports under fluorescent light.
With this as a backdrop, financial stability takes the edge off of life, and allows women time to step out of survival mode.
3] Maturity.
While some women enjoy getting wasted, sleeping with strangers, and partying all night long, others prefer a refuge from what feels like all out war to be a better alternative.
4] Knows who he is and what he wants.
When I was 27 I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life.
I liked a lot of things, but couldn’t seem to settle on any one.
This included women.
Enough said on this one.
5] Has the time to devote to a relationship.
This one certainly ties into the 3rd item on my list, but it’s important to note that the relationship itself is on equal footing with everything else in an older man’s life.
He doesn’t have to climb the corporate ladder all over again.
This time in life is his to share with someone else.
He isn’t “on the road” every five minutes trying to satisfy the demands of a corporation bleeding him soulless.
At this juncture, he is the corporation and anyone who suggests otherwise can deal with his middle finger.
SUMMARY
The is no perfect relationship, no matter what the difference in age happens to be.
Whether it’s an older man with a younger woman, or an older woman in the same situation, it’s all about making the pieces fit.
It’s a more conscious process than it was back in the days when a smile sealed the deal.
Now it’s about who we’ve become, who we are, and what we want.
This takes about as much of the guesswork out of life as one can reasonably expect from human beings.
For many younger women, that’s more than enough.
